When you’re first diagnosed with arthritis, it’s not just your joints that are affected. Your emotional wellbeing matters just as much, and for many people, the mental and emotional impact of arthritis can feel just as challenging as the physical pain.
The emotional side of a new diagnosis
Finding out you have arthritis can stir up a lot of different emotions. You might feel surprised, scared, sad, angry, or a bit of everything. Maybe you’re thinking, Why me? What happens now? Will my life change forever?
It’s also completely normal to feel a sense of grief or loss. You might be mourning the lifestyle you had, or the plans you’d made. There’s no “right” way to feel, and you don’t have to pretend you’re okay. These emotions are part of the journey and they can shift over time.
You’re not alone
As you start learning to live with arthritis, there may be ups and downs. Pain, fatigue, and changes to your routine or relationships can be draining. Some days, you might feel invisible, especially if people around you don’t understand what you’re going through. It's not just in your head, mental health challenges like anxiety and depression are common among people with arthritis.
That’s why emotional wellbeing is such an important part of your care.
How to support your emotional wellbeing
You deserve support that strengthens both your taha hinengaro (mental and emotional health) and your taha tinana (physical health). Here are some small steps that can help you feel more balanced and in control:
- Talk to someone – Sharing how you feel with a trusted friend, whānau member, or support group can lighten the emotional load. You don’t have to carry it alone. Join an online support group
- Keep doing things you enjoy – Whether it’s gardening, walking, crafts, or reading, doing things that bring you joy can lift your mood and remind you of your strengths
- Move your body in gentle ways – Exercise doesn’t have to be intense. Even light movement can ease stiffness, improve your energy, and boost your mood
- Be kind to yourself – It’s okay to rest. You don’t have to “tough it out” or have it all together. Honour your limits and acknowledge your wins, no matter how small
- Accept support – Asking for help, whether that’s with housework, errands, or just having someone to talk to—is a sign of strength, not weakness
- Set small, meaningful goals – Focus on what you can do today. Small steps can help rebuild confidence and motivation
